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Despite the wonderful diversity within our LGBTQ communities, it can sometimes feel like the ‘T’ is silent. Trans people are often left off the sexual health agenda, and even within community spaces, transphobia is rife. Read more
One Oscar winner seems to have attracted the attention of many people for his winning speech. Read more
Stating “No Asians” on a dating app in her mind, is no different from saying “No blondes” or if her heterosexual husband said “No men” Read more
A crash course on gender identity
Not showing symptoms? A postal testing kit could work for you.
One of the greatest challenges that gay men face can be summed up in two little words: coming out.
Mental health is a topic people still find difficult to discuss, even with their closest circle of friends. If you ask us gays, we are all fabulous. “Depressed, me? Struggling? Never!” Which is ironic, considering the staggering amount of data proving otherwise.
Are you homophobic?
Here's what to look out for.
How important is it to look after your mental health? Very, actually. All too often gay men spend far more time working on our abs than our mental health.
In our recent survey we found that 24% of gay men had tried to kill themselves while 56% said they thought about it.
I have struggled with depression and suicidal thoughts on and off for my entire adult life.
...what should you say when someone comes out to you?
Not showing symptoms? A postal testing kit could work for you. Read more
Coming out to your family can seem like the most scary thing in the world to do. Whatever stage of life you come to it at, there’s always going to be trepidation. I remember being a teenager and absolutely dreading that my family would find out. Read more
From my teenage years, I have been met with negative stereotypes. In strangers’ minds, my being black and being very tall, has been equated with me being intimidating, menacing, and threatening... Read more
I’ve not always been a great ally of trans people. With the benefit of hindsight I can see that was partly caused by my fear of any femininity within myself. Read more
WE NEED YOU! Read more
The truth is that you don’t have to be subjected to discrimination that many times along the road before you begin to expect it at every turn. Read more
Is there racism in the gay community? Yes, because hatred and fear and loathing, spite and routine, irrationality and misoneism; these things infect everywhere. Read more
If you’re an Asian guy like me then not a week, or often a day, goes by when I don’t have to endure some form of casual racism. Read more
The illusion of inclusion is how I would describe the LGBT community in Britain. The gay community loves to pay lip service to being accepting of everyone... Read more
Report after report and survey after survey demonstrates that for BAME people in LGBTQ communities racism is a near universal experience...very rarely do these reports answer more difficult questions about the nature of this racism. Read more
It’s a sad fact that elements of the gay community are racist. Some are overtly racist directly through their language and actions, while there are others who don’t even recognise that they are racist. Read more
I contemplated the title of this issue for a long time. I considered making it a question: ‘Is the gay community racist?’. Read more